12 Steps To Getting Over Your Ex

If we've learned anything from years and years of rom-com watching, it's that nothing eases the initial pain of a breakup quite like a good cry and a one-night stand with Ben & Jerry (or, you know, an extended two-month love affair with the boys -- no judgement here, we've been there).

And while that's all fine and well, at some point, it's important to take a step back and consider some slightly more positive ways to get over that ex of yours.

Below, our readers share the first step they took to get past the the pain of divorce or a difficult breakup. Read what they had to say, then head to the comments and share with us your fail-proof advice on getting over an ex.

Why Hugging is Essential to Your Relationship

If there's one way I know that my husband and I are in need of a little relationship reboot, it's the fact that we are less physically affectionate.

And I'm not talking about the bedroom, although that is a very real part of it as well, but I'm talking about more of your general, day-to-day little forms of affection.

The kisses goodbye, the hugs at the door, the hand-holding out and about.

Under the stress of work, kids, and life in general, I always notice that when I am feeling particularly stressed, those little love signs are the first to go.

8 WAYS TO UNVIEL A WOMAN’S CHARACTER

Men, when it comes to dating and attraction with women, “cute” is a fine starting point. I understand that God made men and women to be physically attracted to each other, and I would never encourage a brother to marry a gal he was not at least somewhat attracted to. But “hot” is not a good ending point either—kinda like “hell” isn’t a good ending point.

There is so much about a woman to know as a man contemplates whether or not to pursue her beyond friendship. A common mistake men make before asking a woman out is they make snap judgments about her based on looks and don’t take the time to observe her in action to get an idea of her character.

How glo recharge card ends Okey's relationship Basketmouth and Okey Bakassi

This extremely hilarious video tells the story of how Okey Bakassi broke up with his lover after proposing a contract agreement before he can recharge his girlfriend's phone --in case she wins some millions from glo through the recharge.

Smart right? ...and of course barrister Basketmouth was there to facilitate the legal proceedings. I just can't stop laughing at this comedy.

"Why You'll Never 'Get' a Man"

By Tracy McMillan: Author of the bestselling book "Why You're Not Married...Yet".

When it comes to dating and love, everyone wants the same thing: a fantastic partner. And when you want something, it's only natural to think about how you're going to get it, right? You want to know what should you wear, say, do - or equally important - what you should NOT wear, say, or do to bag the prize. The prize being the man of your dreams, on bended knee.